The content of this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, examination, diagnosis, or treatment. "More than half of children with autism have moderate to severe sleep disturbances," according to the ATN specialists. Co-morbidities ARE THE ISSUE. You are proving the authors point. I have an autistic daughter who has stopped eating and drinking. Take yourself out for a Starbucks coffee to clear your head. Every day. You cant keep it up, there will come a point you have to unload. (Because yall can hold down a job?) Solving the medical problem may make the SIB disappear. This is not a "different way of seeing the world" that he has, or "a wonderful gift." This is a child about to be 9 years old who can not say "mum" or use a bathroom himself. None of us are perfect but clearly your social media skills need improving because you are trolling the wrong people: advocates for improvement in autism services, education and supportservices which you could benefit from if you honestly cannot see how mean and misguided your insults are. Is that what you want? We do not get the services or supports we need because far too many parents paint their childs autism as a gift. People need to see the hard side of autism. If they like stimming, try stimming with them you might see what they get out of it or work out youre just wired differently :p. Then dont be a part of those FB parents groups. "All tips given will greatly help parents to handle autistic children efficiently. This is is why half of all teacher quit within 5 years. Watching your child headbang, scratch, bite, punch themselves for a reason we cant explain, and the helpless feeling of watching that without being able to stop it unless using restraints and emergency medications to sedate. You very likely need MORE support than I do, and thats valid! Is that complaining? People like YOU should be shamed, not US for trying to educate you on how to actually not dehumanize your child, or US. You have no clue what it is too realize, and YES grieve, because your child will never have a comfortable existence, and may never even go to school much less graduate. Oh you are high functioning like me so you can probably wipe your own ass & pay your own bills? We dont know if hell be able to regain the losses he has experienced once he has school again. Just because she had a bad day (we all do), and decided to share her story, doesnt give you the right to bash her and make her out to be a bad person. The prevalence of adults with autism is on the rise and the reason is really quite simple: more children diagnosed with autism means, in the long run, more adults with autism. Think about it If a couple went to a concert, and the wife got overwhelmed and overstimulated, and she had a panic attack, Then the husband posted a video on Facebook talking about how EMBARASSING his wife was and how hard it made his life, How no one would love her because shes different How frustrating it is that he had to give up on his wife and her future, Many would call him emotionally abusive, and rightfully so. Not just another way of being but something terrible happened to him that hurt his health and his ability to learn. AAC can help bridge the gap if your child isn't ready for speech yet. Making money off your childs Autism.? "I Don't Like My Child, Help!" "I've had it with my 12-year-old daughter who has ADHD, sensory disorder, and learning disabilities (LD). Whats that based on? How much they wish it didnt exist? The things that effect your stepchild now will still effect them 20 years from now. At the same time it is nobodys business to tell someone how to deal with difficult emotions OR where, when and how to share their experiences. She holds a degree in Informatics and has spoken at college events to improve understanding about disabilities. Older autistic children may enjoy setting up their toys in scenes. If you choose to have children, you are opening yourself up to having a whole range of children and this really should have been made clear before you start. I think sharing about how to deal with parenting issues (regardless of whether the child is ND or NT) is invaluable. But that doesnt equal liking him and you know that deep down. Theyre horrible. Hates her child? Or the very real lack of availability for ABA in most states? Id give anything, painful as it would be, for him to be able to read even this BS and respond himself as to how messed up it is. My son is severe ASD and I often need to talk or vent, and I absolutely detest autism, and the things autism does to my son and our family, but in no way does that mean I hate him. its certainly not an overwhelmed mother crying on a video, The world is judgmental enough, now ASD mums are shaming each other. Thank you for such a thoughtful resource and such great ideas. and I wonder if its not more a general problem of people seeking attention. Best to you and your family! It is exhausting living with a full grown man with the IQ of a toddler. If I do, thats a meltdown. 2 School programs are comprehensive and available to all, but adult programs are sketchier and may involve long wait lists, particularly for families in which the adult Why does it look like they do it like a breeze. I take offense to the complaining comment by author. Outside of the internet hardly anyone cares, people in the general public rarely understand, you as the parent are the villain and without resources and constant intervention paired with routine it is Hell. There are lots of gentler ways to tell our stories and deal with our troubles. NT society blames the child for not keeping NT more often, and the parent suffers scorn for somehow ruining the chance their child could be normal.. This is the first step to know whether what youre about to share is over the line. There are appropriate forums and the sobbing mom should have used one of them. Forces to quit jobs to stay home with the severe individual, living in near poverty, and always fighting to get your child disability services. So did my husband. My parents are far from perfection, but if they made something like this to me I would publicly shame them back and/or kill myself. People with autism have a number of legal rights and protections. I dont criticize that woman for trying to take her child to see something she thought he might like. ALL PEOPLE COMPLAIN. It is important to understand these rights to ensure that you or your child is being treated fairly and given access to all of the services and supports to which you are entitled. She shouldnt have posted a video about it, but you shouldnt be judging her. Not to mention that you could EXPOSE YOUR CHILDREN TO BULLIES AND/OR PAEDOPHILES. To call the disorder that has left our children with profound impairments in cognition, communication and behavior a "strange gift," as Silberman does, is truly mind-boggling. Its the same thing. She should clarify that this does NOT apply to level 3 autism, the most severe, as the DSM does. This is far different than a mom who makes a public facebook post showing their neuro-typical kid with a shaved head because they flunked a math test or dyed their hair green at a friends house. Beautifully written! My heart aches for him. Feelings that others relate to and thanked her for sharing so they dont all feel alone. Does that make you feel better to use capital letters. I used to follow the blog of a woman who filmed her sons rages. The struggle and frustrations need to be shared and spoken about, but not online for the whole world. While I agree that there is a time and place for everything, to say that a parent has no right to express frustration about their child is bogus. Avoid organizations that aren't run by autistic people, or treat autism as an enemy to be eradicated, such as. our children already have enough to deal with day and night. Sleep deprivation, extensive injury, seizure conditions, and explosive behaviors just to name a few. This can help you learn more about their sensitivities. When deseperate and frustrated we need to vent but theres no point posting online. And I felt totally justified, too. Make it clear that you care about what's bothering them, even if you don't know what it is. My husband disappeared into his work, and I had another child who needed me as well. Heres a picture: A desire not to do something. Its the broadcasting of something private to her and her son. Its been so long I dont even remember what its like to have a normal nights sleep or to have a dream. Is she not allowed to have one? I dont work, i dont drive, i shower once in a blue moon and im happy. The problem here isnt the teachers, most of whom are going beyond duty for the children. Or how we traumatize doctors and nurses because it takes 5 people to restrain her just so she can have a basic check up? It would be a miracle if my son could learn to express himself as people with Aspergers do. Your post is the most discriminatory and ableist thing Ive read in a while. My hobbies and interests are lost to me. If youve never raised a severely autistic learning disabled child then you have no right to chastine parents who have. I feel so sorry for your child(ren). Its scary to think about the future when your child may need lifetime care. Theres a severe lack of resources for autistic children and their families. Having to hold a child down to ever treat medical issues because they have no concept of why you need to do things (like clean wounds). That way, the disappointment wouldnt be so great. Work with your child to find alternative ways to stim. Maybe she didnt handle it the way you would have but its not your kid. everyone struggles and we all do and say things in the heat of the moment when tired, unhappy or stressed. I find it great that the internet creates the possibility for parents of autistic children to support each other. But last night i posted about how exhausted I was (on my private page) because of being sick and him raging, and I dont regret it. I dont complain on social media because Im off all social media. Some of the best sources of calcium include milk, cheese, yogurt, spinach, kale, okra, collards, soybeans, white beans, and calcium-fortified juices and cereals. Hate. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Youre a fucking cunt. Hmmm? But there is no more. you say it gets easier, so your the voice of every autistic child, well you got alot to learn then, cause thats is not always the case,, many do not get easier an to say such a thing is completely wrong. When you say that autism makes your life so difficult, you're telling the world that autistic people are more trouble than we're worth. She could have recorded the video and showed it to a close group of people who really and truly understand and are able to help. If your children had actual decent parents that loved and helped them (rather than demonized them or whined to the internet to get asspats and attention), they wouldnt act out. 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